Let’s take a moment to talk about this. I mean, because first off, “Tell cars not to hit kids.” Well, yeah, we do that all the fucking time, idiot. Ever seen signs like these?
We have classes and signs and laws about it, and people are constantly reminded. So your argument only works if we put up signs everywhere reminding assholes not to rape. But you’d rather talk about how rape victims have it coming to them.
But the dumbest part of this crap? Roads exist for cars to drive on. Children need to be careful to cross the street because they’re entering into an environment that exists specifically for something that is dangerous to them. The only way this shit is a valid comparison is if you think that bars, parties, and the world in general exists specifically for men to have sex with women. And I gotta break it to the guys who support this stupidity- your dicks are not that important. So knock off this bullshit and stop excusing rapists.
An Iowa youth pastor convicted of raping underage boys to “cure” them of their homosexuality will serve no jail time.
“Rape away the gay” pastor Brent Girouex, a 31-year-old Iowa man, will not serve jail time after confessing to police that he had sex with at least four youths, according to a recent report.
Girouex, who is married with four children, was arrested last year on 60 counts of suspicion of sexual exploitation by a counselor or therapist. UPI reports Girouex confessed to Council Bluffs police detectives that he had sexual relations with four young men starting in 2007 to help them gain “sexual purity” in the eyes of God. However, at least eight men have come forward with complaints that the pastor molested them.
Girouex told detectives that his actions were meant to “help with homosexual urges by praying while he had sexual contact with [them]” in order to keep them “sexually pure” for God. Because, as Girouex explained to detectives, ”when they would ejaculate, they would be getting rid of the evil thoughts in their mind.”
A judge issued a 17-year prison sentence for the heinous crimes, but then inexplicably suspended the sentence to allow Girouex to get sex offender treatment and probation. Girouex’s probation will last five years, the maximum allowed by law.
This a problem. Make it a real fucking issue, Tumblr.
I cannot even wrap my mind around that excuse, what in the everloving fuck.
So. As a person who believe in god, and believes that jesus christ is my lord and savior. Just going to say that this mutherfucka is going to hell ten fold.
PAX is not, and has never been, a safe place for me to be.
In 2008, I went to PAX for the first time. Despite all of the male gamers trying to tell me how to play StarCraft, despite all of the hungry looks, despite all of the catcalls, it was the most welcome I have ever felt at the con. And this was the year I met the man who raped me.
He instantly bothered me. He was clingy but arrogant and dismissive. But he was a friend of friends, friends who insisted he was “a decent person but takes some getting used to,” and also “totally harmless.” Wrong on both counts. Over the course of the weekend, he singled me out several times, telling me that he could tell I was into him, and that I should stop resisting his advances. At one point he had grabbed me by the wrist and dragged me outside, down the block. He took me away from the safety of my friend’s apartment, into the streets of an unfamiliar town, at dark.
Many excruciating things transpired in the next six weeks. I was endlessly harassed and bullied by this man. I was kidnapped on my twenty-first birthday. I was woken up in the middle of the night, over and over again. So I did everything I could to distance myself from him, but because he was a friend of my friends, I just couldn’t get away from him. I asked my friends to not leave me alone in the same room with him. I asked them to always check in with me when they saw me on Vent or AIM.
And six weeks later, he showed up at my door.
I lived alone. And I mean ALONE. No roommates, no local friends. I didn’t even know a neighbor in the complex who could help me. He forced his way into my home with the singular intent of raping me. I only remember little pieces of what happened (thank you, traumatized brain, for protecting me). I remember very clearly trying hard to breathe and trying hard not to cry. I remember thinking, “If you can just survive, you can put the pieces back together later.”
For six months, I was a broken human being. I quit my job. I stopped going to classes. And I started drinking. Once, I reached out to another member of my WoW guild to tell him what had happened, only to be completely cut off from him and the rest of my guild. Like many victims, I felt ashamed and guilty about being raped. Some days, I even felt like it was my fault. Like, “If only I had not gone to this convention where all of these men told me they want to do terrible things to me, maybe I would not be such a fucking wreck right now.”
I realized right away that was not the right train of thought. After all, I’d just met plenty of awesome people at PAX! Many of them were not interested in causing me bodily harm at all!
Remember: 2008 was the most positive experience I had with PAX. I have attended six consecutive PAXes, each more discouraging and toxic than the last. To be fair, there is always fun to be had at PAX. It’s a neat convention. Except when you get down to some of the people who attend it.
I used to think that the man who raped me was in the minority. That the men who shouted obscene things at me just didn’t fucking know any better, because hey, we’re all geeks. We’re not exactly known for possessing stellar social skills. I used to think that the men attending PAX who didn’t respect, or even like, women were the exceptions instead of the rule. But now I know better. Because Gabe told me so.
In 2010, the Dickwolves strip was published. It wasn’t a funny joke to begin with—treating victims as punchlines is never funny to me—but as a rape survivor it offended me and made me question my value to the community. Obviously Penny Arcade has never really catered to me, not really, but this was the first instance where I felt worse than worthless to them. This was the first instance that I realized the founders of the community would rather make jokes at my expense, at the risk of my safety, than admit that they were wrong and withdraw their statement.
So on Monday, when Gabe’s statement about regretting the retraction of the Dickwolves merch was met with raucous cheers of agreement, my stomach churned. My vision went blurry. I felt dizzy. That entire room of people supports him making money from minimizing the most excruciating experience of my life. The entire room validated his stance. Every cheer reaffirmed his belief that rape is something to laugh at and to profit from.
Let me be clear: I do not think all members of the PAX community are rape apologists. In fact, I think many of these people are wonderful humans. But the community has progressed to a place where it is UNSAFE for me to even say that I’m offended. Let me say that again: standing up for myself within the Penny Arcade community has become a threat to my physical well being.
I don’t even know what else to say. But why the fuck do I have to be the one to say it?
Friends, please read all of this. And remember that the merch that was pulled was created in the first place to make fun of the people who complained (politely, at first) about the comic strip. Their response to the concerns of rape survivors was to mock them and make money at it.
I’ve seen several people on the change-it-from-within front saying “but if they keep us out, they win.”
I think that’s true in many situations. I don’t think it’s true of PAX. Once they’ve got your money, and they’ve shown over the past three years and more that they have no intention whatsoever of listening to your voice. Short of a majority of the Enforcer team going on strike for change, nothing is going to change PAX from within because the owners have already shown they’re not open to it.
As far as they’re concerned, they’ve won the moment you buy your ticket.
Mike Krahulik (Gabe) of Penny Arcade has said he regrets taking down Dickwolves merchandise. Which, if you aren’t familiar, was created with the express intent of mocking rape survivors.
Let that sink in for a minute.
I think my friend Ryan put it pretty well:
To be totally firm: @cwgabriel saying that he regrets pulling the Dickwolves merch is saying that he regrets listening to women.— Ryan Macklin (@RyanMacklin)
I’m generally pretty up front about my dislike for Penny Arcade. I haven’t been a fan for a while. But this is the last straw. This is where I’m ready to burn bridges over it. Continuing to support Penny Arcade and PAX is making a statement. That statement is “it’s okay to perpetuate rape culture and make nerd spaces worse as long as I think you’re funny.” It’s “I value survivors less than a webcomic.”
This is pretty personal for me. I’ve been raped, I’ve been sexually assaulted. I’ve been harassed in nerd spaces. This is pretty directly my skin on the line, in terms of making nerd spaces safer for everyone.
This is #1reasonwhy. This is why women don’t feel safe at conventions. Because the men who spearhead them, their figureheads, actively advocate for rape culture. Because their leaders actively devalue women’s safety. Because a crowd cheers them on.
So, like what you’re gonna like! Do what you’re gonna do! But this is to the point where I will absolutely consider it a testament to your character if you go to PAX, support Penny Arcade, or try to minimize an audience cheering Mike’s bigotry. I will consider it, and I will not trust you.
i know everyone is going nuts about all of the other huge news stories going on right now but
A 15-year-old boy who was raped by a 34-year-old woman now faces child support in Nebraska.
This is the case for now 19-year-old Jeremy Steen, of Lincoln, Nebraska. In 2008, Steen was seduced and raped repeatedly by his 34-year-old baby sitter Linda Kazinsky. Sources testified that the sexual abuse took place weekly for nearly 3 years. After police were alerted, Ms. Kazinsky was arrested and charged with statutory rape and false imprisonment.
Kazinsky was employed as a babysitter for the Steens for nearly 3 years.
After Kazinsky’s release from Nebraska’s state prison system in 2012 she was able to regain custody of her child. The child had been a ward of the state for the first 13 months until Debra Kazinsky, Linda’s sister, was able to gain custody. After being reunited with her child, Kazinsky promptly filed for Aid and Government assistance which in turn landed Jeremy with a subpena for child support.
Jeremy had his day in court and was ordered to pay $475 a month in child support to Linda Kazinsky as well as a whopping $23,000 in back Child Support payments.
- This adult woman raped a 15 year old boy weekly over the course of THREE YEARS
- This woman only saw the inside of a jail cell for one YEAR
- This woman got pregnant with his child and WON CUSTODY OF THAT CHILD
- and this child is being forced to pay child support to his rapist.
- This now 19 year old must pay her 475 a month
- and apparently owes her 23K in pack payments
- THIS CHILD IS LITERALLY PAYING FOR HIS OWN RAPE
- THIS IS NOT JUSTICE
- THIS IS NOT OKAY
Cop Sexually Assaults Woman Then Arresting Her For Protesting
As if that wasn’t enough for them, they sent her child to protective services and put the mother in jail for “making false allegations against a police officer”, which is actually not a crime. Now that it’s been revealed she was telling the truth, not only is the cop fired, but even the judge who sat there and let it happen is under investigation.
never forget, acab.
physically painful to watch.
this news station actually just used a trigger warning though!
- Since 2006, more than 95,000 service members have been sexually assaulted in the U.S. military
- More than 86% of service members do not report their assault
- Less than five percent of all sexual assaults are put forward for prosecution, and less than a third of those cases result in imprisonment
I hate that I can attest to accuracy of this post. I never reported my assailants. I had a friend who did. She got looked down upon, name called, moved to a crappy shift and generally treated like trash from a good number of people in our command, including some superiors. The male who molested her got a “talking” to, a slap on his wrist and then essentially promoted. And that was on shore. I can’t even begin to tell you what happened while we were on the ship. It’s just unbelievably horrifying.
Can I fucking tell you how true this is???? Even though I did report the shit dick that did this to me; OSI treated me like I was lying, saying things like “you’re not acting like a victim”, and “this is impossible” when they made me draw out a diagram of what ‘position’ we were in when it happened. My sergeants basically called me out publicly calling me a slut, other airmen called me easy, and the bastard is still enlisted to this day. The most I got was a medical discharge with PTSD and a monthly check that isn’t even half of what I was making a month when I was enlisted. They cover their tracks and slap the assholes on the nose like they’re simply misbehaving pet dogs who pissed on your carpet.
God fucking bless the USA.
“We live in a country where politicians call rape a “gift from God” and suggest that women regularly lie about being raped. Where a group of young men in high school think so little of sexual assault that they thought it was fine - hilarious, even - to post pictures online of a passed out rape victim, and to live-tweet the rape, joking about the victim being urinated on. We live in a country where media as revered as The New York Times finds it necessary to describe an 11-year-old gang rape victim as “wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s.” Where a woman can be fired because her boss finds her “irresistable” and a woman’s rape case falls flat because she isn’t married.
It’s time to acknowledge that the rape epidemic in the United States is not just about the crimes themselves, but our own cultural and political willful ignorance. Rape is as American as apple pie - until we own that, nothing will change.”
Yeah so Americans can climb right off that ‘India is so backwards w/r/t women’ high horse right now.
[Discussion of rape/consent issues.]
So, I went from being upset about things in the latest Spider-Man comics, to being furious at the response from editorial.
Spoilers everywhere in the linked piece.
Also, be aware that the things I’ve tagged here are triggers for the piece I’ve written.
Please don’t go if it may upset you.
Amazing Spider-Man 700, Avenging Spider-Man 15.1, and the handling of sexual consent in comics.
Jesus Christ, someone actually said that? And believed it?
That’s almost as bad as the ol’ “I’m not racist, you’re racist for bringing it up!” argument.
I wish I could say I were surprised, but this is standard M.O. for the Marvel staff in general and Wacker in particular. It’s Marvel’s boilerplate circular logic — “If you don’t like it, don’t buy it!”/”If you didn’t buy it, you can’t have an opinion about it!” — applied to social issues. “I am not a bad person, therefore the people suggesting I or the group which I’m associated with have done a bad thing are the real bad people.” There’s no room for admitting wrongdoing or even for
The irony of that kind of thinking associated with a franchise like Spider-Man, whose lead character is the quintessential good person working through the consequences of his bad actions…
It’s also depressing that Spider-Man’s PTB apparently learned nothing from the Chameleon/Michelle Gonzales controversy and still think this is a worthwhile path to go down.
Same shit, different writer — between Van Lente’s spider-rape and Joe Casey’s hipster racism in the book and Slott’s stalker-behavior and Wacker’s usual antagonism outside of it, the Spider-Man books are corner of the Marvel U I decided to avoid on principle.
Oh god. Is there a link somewhere so I can share in the horror?
TW: Discussions of rape and rape culture at links:
Dissection and appropriate rage: